More than 9 in 10 people in a toxic workplace survey reported self-doubt they never had before the job
How much longer will you remain stagnant, waiting for another sign that this is unsustainable?
Source: Toxic Workplace Report 2026, Jennifer Brick. Self-selected survey of people in or out of a toxic workplace.
What you will learn using this guide
Recognize gaslighting in real time
Learn the most common workplace gaslighting phrases, and what each phrase actually means, so you stop second-guessing what you just heard.
Regulate your nervous system so you can think clearly
Simple regulation tools you can use in the moment to come back into your body, so you respond instead of react.
Protect yourself with neutral, fact-based responses
Clear phrases grounded in the "gray rock" method that remove anything they could try to use against you.
Document & clarify so you have evidence & boundaries
Know exactly what to say to create a written trail, and how to build records that support you.
Hi, I'm Mary.
For 15 years I've helped high-achieving women untangle what their workplace did to them from what they believe about themselves. I'm a licensed therapist and workplace trauma coach, and I made this guide because gaslighting works by making you doubt yourself, and the fastest way out is knowing exactly what's being done and exactly what to say.
You don't have to figure this out alone
If the phrases in this guide sound like your Monday through Friday, that's worth taking seriously. Book a clarity call with me, we'll look at what's really going on at your job and you'll leave with direction on your next steps.
Schedule Your Clarity CallYou're not alone.